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Q. Hi Coach.
I love your newsletter. I've been dating this man off and on
for almost 5 years. When it's good, it's what I've always
wanted, when it's bad...it's toxic. How can we get to a good
place, and stay there-through the rough road...knowing it'll get
better? Or would it be better to just part forever? (I'm 36,
he's 47). ~ off and on
A. Dear off and on,
Thank you for the kind words. Now for your question. Every
relationship that reaches true intimacy will get bad for a time.
This bad period mostly happens because intimacy is like salve
that makes all of the bad and hurtful things that a person
has experienced in a lifetime come out to be shared and healed.
Problem is, most people do not identify what is happening as a
healing expression of lifetime experiences, but think they feel
bad because of the relationship and partner. So they leave.
The way to get to a good place together is to stay together when
it gets bad and to work through both of your emotions. Now,
notice, I am not saying stay hoping that it gets better, but
actively work together, even with a professional, on what's going
wrong. If both if you can earnestly go this route, you may end up
together in a blissful ever after. ~ Love Coach Rinatta Parie
(c) Rinatta Paries. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"
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